Saturday, December 31, 2022

Summary of December 2019 to 31st December 2022

She was walking on her terrace and scrolling her phone. 

Oh, Gosh People are sharing their year summary crazily on Instagram and Facebook. For a minute she thought all these things are meaningless but for another second while she thought about her January  2022 to December 2022 it was a bit blessed and a roller coaster ride. So she has decided to note down her too. She had to write it down because She can't share it on 30-second reels. 


Summary of December 2019 to 31st December 2022

In December 2019 she was a stubborn girl who came to India for a few days with the thought that she will go back to Dubai. Recently she started becoming comfortable with a new job and it was helping her to come out of her Introvert shell. Her uncle was asking to apply and try for a Job in India, not permanently, but she was not listening as it was on her mind that she would return to the country. December went quite fast as she was trying to adjust in time 

January she was busy preparing for her cousin's marriage. Yes, she mentioned Cousins, earlier they were brothers to her. but now it's a formal call once in a year and that's for Rakhi. This will take time to understand those who know what they meant to her but now it's completely different. 

February again she was busy with the marriage of her cousin.  She was excited but slowly found out everyone's behavior changed toward her. Earlier everyone was asking before doing anything but now she was kind of a sideline. Money can change people's perceptions about you. 

March COVID hit all over the world, and with that, she got the news she could not fly to Dubai back as the company will not provide a visa at the moment. She was trying to convince her dad but things didn't work out. A girl who was walking in the streets of Dubai very freely suddenly she was feeling like she was in a cage. She started noticing there is a change in everyone's behavior.  

People are reading motivational books or any entrepreneur's life story but she always looks up to her Father. Business wise he lost everything twice but in May 2020 again he was searching for a job. At the age of 52, he was trying to learn the new concept of WORK FROM HOME. He started doing that which he can never ever imagine. He was working till 3 to 4 am and again at 7:00 am he will back to his work But she still thought she will go back to Dubai.

In a MAY She was still daydreaming. Her father was working till late and she was exploring new things such as being a Life Coach, how to step ahead in the area of Writing, and so on. In that process, she met Rushika Hathi. Who guided her on how she can change direction and carrier as well. But still, it was hurting as her Father was working day and night and still he is. 

One fine night she got angry to see her father struggling and working till late and as soon as she woke up posted about Job Searching on LinkedIn on June 19th and she got a job on 20th June 2020. When she got to know about salary, in Dubai watchman or sweeper will earn more than her but something is better than nothing. June is a kind of life-changing for her she will Describe it more when time permits. 

July again another reality hit and her mother needs to get her leg surgery as she was having problems in walking. The whole of July month she was wondering here and there to do many reports she was managing along with her Full-time Job.

In August surgery was successfully done but now what had happened she was not prepared for it, especially her father. Someone from a family member told her father early in the morning between 7:15 to 7:30 she still remembers that time, and yes so, the family member told her father to Go out of his own home. A man who was earning for his family for the past 20 years and suddenly someone told him like this. Her brother and She were standing with his father against all & her mother was unconscious in a bed as she recently back from the hospital. Her father became a piece of old furniture in a home everyone started ignoring and they did him a complete sideline. Still, while she is writing,  getting goosebumps and tears.

In September 2020 they shifted to another apartment on rent they left home with 3 suitcases of clothes and some household things. Till today her father is visiting his old home but that’s just for the sake of his parents.

Anyway, today 31st December 2022 I would like to convey, No I didn’t skip the counts of months but after that, she doesn’t know any date, month, or year. She was involved so much in work that she skipped looking at the day, month or year went through a sleepless night, had depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and so on. Her parents thought their girl is the happiest in the world because there is always a smile on her face. But she became over thinker which no one can imagine.

It's 11:21 PM on 31st December 2022. 

The whole world is getting ready to watch firecrackers in different parts of the world and I am Editing my blog in between my work. Feeling Proud on myself 

These past three years taught me the biggest lesson ever TIME IS the BEST TEACHER & IT CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING. Your bad time will show you who is your real companion. We , 4 a Parent, Brother & I together we worked as a Team and we are still working. My Mom was a silent sacrificer who stick us around and kept us grounded. And now if someone says 2+2=5 I will say you are absolutely right bro. No Argument!!!

We lost some precious relationships in the lake of communication but as dad is saying when you tried everything from your side, & nothing worked out then keep that in one box and handover to god he will open it when the right time arrives. 

She smiled, laughed, cried, and became wise and stronger than ever. Lost many things and People but gained a lot of lessons. 

Message to my DAD: One bad chapter doesn’t define your whole story. When the whole world will be against you, your daughter will be there by holding your hand.

Message to My Mom: Be selfish for yourself, and Live your life fullest.

Message to My Brother: You have always got my back, I will be there for you

Message to myself: Don't forget you are GOD'S FAVOURITE CHILD. 


                 For 2023 her only wish is to be Mentally happy  

              (imagine this is just a summary , how it is as a full story  ) 


                                              - Ms. Thanki

                                            Gods Favourite child 

 


 

Thursday, December 29, 2022

An Experience of Reading A BOOK My Dad's Daughter : A Gift to My Hero in Heaven by DIVYA GUPTA KOTAWALA

I am following Divya on Instagram for quite some time, frequently seeing her stories too. The title of her book MY DAD’S DAUGHTER caught my attention. 

Recently on 16th December 2022, though it was my birthday throughout the day I was sad, cranky full of mixed emotions were going on. My dad tried a lot to cheer me up but I cried without any reason and then back to my desk for office work. At last, he succeeded in cheering me up by bringing lots of my favorite things. When I  calm down and suddenly decided to gift something to myself. The first thing which came to mind is to order the book MY DAD'S DAUGHTER: A GIFT TO MY HERO IN HEAVEN written by Divya Gupta Kotawala.




She wrote this book to gift her father in heaven. She tried more than her best to bring her dad home who was fighting with COVID during the second wave. But god needed him in heaven so he could not return.  

I received it on 22nd December. From the day I got it I don’t know why but I was holding it with lots of respect and for me, it’s like a holy book that I can not keep anywhere just like that. I already told Divya It will not be a review of your book but will be an experience from one daughter (ME) to another daughter (Divya). Only Father – Daughter duo going to feel the emotions. Daughters will read it for sure but I will recommend to all fathers to read it and listen to unshared words by their daughters which Divya described rightly.

Every daughter will relate to each and every emotion from her side. Usually, I can finish 200 pages book in a day but this book took time for me. Each time I start reading not a single page where there were no tears in my eyes and I had to stop to gather emotions. I could actually imagine Divya and Suresh uncle’s bond It gave smiles too while they ordered food from outside when auntie was not at home and uncle told Divya to keep it secret. As I too had many secret things which only my dad and I knows. 

After completing this book for sure it will remind you to go and hug your parents and tell them your feelings, and how grateful you are to be their children. 

                                                  Ms. Thanki

                                          - God's Favourite Child


Below is the link to purchase a book : 

https://www.amazon.in/My-Dads-Daughter-Gift-Heaven-ebook/dp/B09Z9S2DD9/ref=sr_1_1?

Connect with Divya on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/divyatheauthor/



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