''Busy'' was invented to serve as a polite excuse

                                                                    I was Busy.... 

Its said that : "An idle mind is the devil's workshop" as I got over with a client's call and seen text notification over a phone Hey whats app ? I was Busy could not reach you out for quite sometime. 

Busy should be temporary for some minutes or hours may be but when its comes to months 😔😢

First could not believe about that text was not expecting but when seen word BUSY devil smile came & next second when figures were rushing to type Hi...  mind said wait a minute dont you forget you are not suppose to reply instant because ...... but could not wait more then 30 Minutes and typed Hi ... 

We are using this line often in day to day life for Instance I was busy therefore could not do so and so things. I believe we are using word busy as per our terms & conditions. We all have same 24 hours from the beginning how come when you are trying to know someone you will take any risk to be available for that person why that cant be constant. or may be we are comfortable  to be available as per the NEEDS. 

"I am appreciative of the text that ignited my drive, prompting me to start again and making me realise that only writing can save God's favourite child from being lost again."

       

                                                                        - Ms. Thanki

                                                                   God's Favourite Child

Summary of December 2019 to 31st December 2022

She was walking on her terrace and scrolling her phone. 

Oh, Gosh People are sharing their year summary crazily on Instagram and Facebook. For a minute she thought all these things are meaningless but for another second while she thought about her January  2022 to December 2022 it was a bit blessed and a roller coaster ride. So she has decided to note down her too. She had to write it down because She can't share it on 30-second reels. 

Summary of December 2019 to 31st December 2022

In December 2019 she was a stubborn girl who came to India for a few days with the thought that she will go back to Dubai. Recently she started becoming comfortable with a new job and it was helping her to come out of her Introvert shell. Her uncle was asking to apply and try for a Job in India, not permanently, but she was not listening as it was on her mind that she would return to the country. December went quite fast as she was trying to adjust in time 

January she was busy preparing for her cousin's marriage. Yes, she mentioned Cousins, earlier they were brothers to her. but now it's a formal call once in a year and that's for Rakhi. This will take time to understand those who know what they meant to her but now it's completely different. 

February again she was busy with the marriage of her cousin.  She was excited but slowly found out everyone's behavior changed toward her. Earlier everyone was asking before doing anything but now she was kind of a sideline. Money can change people's perceptions about you. 

March COVID hit all over the world, and with that, she got the news she could not fly to Dubai back as the company will not provide a visa at the moment. She was trying to convince her dad but things didn't work out. A girl who was walking in the streets of Dubai very freely suddenly she was feeling like she was in a cage. She started noticing there is a change in everyone's behavior.  

People are reading motivational books or any entrepreneur's life story but she always looks up to her Father. Business wise he lost everything twice but in May 2020 again he was searching for a job. At the age of 52, he was trying to learn the new concept of WORK FROM HOME. He started doing that which he can never ever imagine. He was working till 3 to 4 am and again at 7:00 am he will back to his work But she still thought she will go back to Dubai.

In a MAY She was still daydreaming. Her father was working till late and she was exploring new things such as being a Life Coach, how to step ahead in the area of Writing, and so on. In that process, she met Rushika Hathi. Who guided her on how she can change direction and carrier as well. But still, it was hurting as her Father was working day and night and still he is. 

One fine night she got angry to see her father struggling and working till late and as soon as she woke up posted about Job Searching on LinkedIn on June 19th and she got a job on 20th June 2020. When she got to know about salary, in Dubai watchman or sweeper will earn more than her but something is better than nothing. June is a kind of life-changing for her she will Describe it more when time permits. 

July again another reality hit and her mother needs to get her leg surgery as she was having problems in walking. The whole of July month she was wondering here and there to do many reports she was managing along with her Full-time Job.

In August surgery was successfully done but now what had happened she was not prepared for it, especially her father. Someone from a family member told her father early in the morning between 7:15 to 7:30 she still remembers that time, and yes so, the family member told her father to Go out of his own home. A man who was earning for his family for the past 20 years and suddenly someone told him like this. Her brother and She were standing with his father against all & her mother was unconscious in a bed as she recently back from the hospital. Her father became a piece of old furniture in a home everyone started ignoring and they did him a complete sideline. Still, while she is writing,  getting goosebumps and tears.

In September 2020 they shifted to another apartment on rent they left home with 3 suitcases of clothes and some household things. Till today her father is visiting his old home but that’s just for the sake of his parents.

Anyway, today 31^st December 2022 I would like to convey, No I didn’t skip the counts of months but after that, she doesn’t know any date, month, or year. She was involved so much in work that she skipped looking at the day, month or year went through a sleepless night, had depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and so on. Her parents thought their girl is the happiest in the world because there is always a smile on her face. But she became over thinker which no one can imagine.

It's 11:21 PM on 31^st December 2022. 

The whole world is getting ready to watch firecrackers in different parts of the world and I am Editing my blog in between my work. Feeling Proud on myself 

These past three years taught me the biggest lesson ever TIME IS the BEST TEACHER & IT CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING. Your bad time will show you who is your real companion. We , 4 a Parent, Brother & I together we worked as a Team and we are still working. My Mom was a silent sacrificer who stick us around and kept us grounded. And now if someone says 2+2=5 I will say you are absolutely right bro. No Argument!!!

We lost some precious relationships in the lake of communication but as dad is saying when you tried everything from your side, & nothing worked out then keep that in one box and handover to god he will open it when the right time arrives. 

She smiled, laughed, cried, and became wise and stronger than ever. Lost many things and People but gained a lot of lessons. 

Message to my DAD: One bad chapter doesn’t define your whole story. When the whole world will be against you, your daughter will be there by holding your hand.

Message to My Mom: Be selfish for yourself, and Live your life fullest.

Message to My Brother: You have always got my back, I will be there for you

Message to myself: Don't forget you are GOD'S FAVOURITE CHILD. 

                 For 2023 her only wish is to be Mentally happy … 

              (imagine this is just a summary , how it is as a full story  ) 

                                              - Ms. Thanki

                                            Gods Favourite child 

 

 

An Experience of Reading A BOOK My Dad's Daughter : A Gift to My Hero in Heaven by DIVYA GUPTA KOTAWALA

I am following Divya on Instagram for quite some time, frequently seeing her stories too. The title of her book MY DAD’S DAUGHTER caught my attention. 

Recently on 16^th December 2022, though it was my birthday throughout the day I was sad, cranky full of mixed emotions were going on. My dad tried a lot to cheer me up but I cried without any reason and then back to my desk for office work. At last, he succeeded in cheering me up by bringing lots of my favorite things. When I  calm down and suddenly decided to gift something to myself. The first thing which came to mind is to order the book MY DAD'S DAUGHTER: A GIFT TO MY HERO IN HEAVEN written by Divya Gupta Kotawala.

She wrote this book to gift her father in heaven. She tried more than her best to bring her dad home who was fighting with COVID during the second wave. But god needed him in heaven so he could not return.  

I received it on 22^nd December. From the day I got it I don’t know why but I was holding it with lots of respect and for me, it’s like a holy book that I can not keep anywhere just like that. I already told Divya It will not be a review of your book but will be an experience from one daughter (ME) to another daughter (Divya). Only Father – Daughter duo going to feel the emotions. Daughters will read it for sure but I will recommend to all fathers to read it and listen to unshared words by their daughters which Divya described rightly.

Every daughter will relate to each and every emotion from her side. Usually, I can finish 200 pages book in a day but this book took time for me. Each time I start reading not a single page where there were no tears in my eyes and I had to stop to gather emotions. I could actually imagine Divya and Suresh uncle’s bond It gave smiles too while they ordered food from outside when auntie was not at home and uncle told Divya to keep it secret. As I too had many secret things which only my dad and I knows. 

After completing this book for sure it will remind you to go and hug your parents and tell them your feelings, and how grateful you are to be their children. 

                                                  Ms. Thanki

                                          - God's Favourite Child

Below is the link to purchase a book : 

https://www.amazon.in/My-Dads-Daughter-Gift-Heaven-ebook/dp/B09Z9S2DD9/ref=sr_1_1?

Connect with Divya on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/divyatheauthor/

किसी नज़र को तेरा इंतज़ार आज भी है !! with Many Questions

 It's quite a long break since I have posted over here. 

last year heard the sudden demise of  Indian Actor Shushant Singh Rajput made me write all the emotions for the unknown or those feelings which were never felt before and today Actor Siddharth Shukla's  Good-Bye again forced me to write my Heart Out. 

I have woke up after a long sleep around 11 in the morning. In my drawing-room was enjoying warm water in my favourite mug and dad went out for some work and suddenly mom looked at dad's laptop and uttered Siddhart Shukla Died due to Heart Attack... I said read the name again you must be read wrong. She said Look at his Picture this is he,  himself. I could not believe it. 

It's very Clear that have no idea anything about him or his personal life. But three things just Crossed my mind. 

                                                        1. His Mother

                                                        2. Shehnaz Gil 

                                                        3. You Never Know when Last Good Bye Is. 

A Mother who loses her Son he died before her,  how she can digest that fact. I have personally seen that fact in my home. My Elder uncle passed away 15 years ago but still, my Grandmom can not accept the fact that her son is no more with her. 

As a Girl for a minute just if we try to keep ourselves in her shoes can we imagine what she is going through?  When a girl gives her heart to a man how can she believe that she never going to see, hear, or feel the warmth of a person with whom she dreamed to share her life? thousands of memories are passing by her. They must have made each other angry, many times they may have fought but in the end, they can see each other, call, and sort out all that stuff? But Now ????

Since Morning, all social Media and News channels are showing his Journey and saying all the good things about him not a single line has been shared about his temper issue and any other behavior. But if he was alive and did anything wrong then everyone will highlight like anything. We have shared his picture with RIP and we will keep sharing on his birth/death anniversary. Those who have closed to him or worked with him might remember and miss him. 

Why do we always praise and value once the person is no more with us? The pandemic Situation of Corona and all these sudden demises are teaching us again and again not to keep grudges in the heart just move on and let it because we never know when it will be last Good Bye !!!

                                                      - Ms. Thanki

                                                 God's Favourite Child 

                                                     

This tiny book is named: ‘’Life is One Play’’, Written by the Gujarati Author Late Kundanika Kapadia and is based on Florence Scovel Shinn’s Book the Game of Life and How to Play it.

This book is a combination of 10 Chapters…

1) Game

2) Law of Prosperity

3) Power of Word

4) Law of Acceptance

5) Law of Karma &

Forgiveness

6) Throw the Burdens

7) Love

8) Intuition & Guidance

9) Divine Plan

10) Rejection &

Acceptance

Here author Portrait a very magical trick for the individual to identify their hidden strength. She has elaborated it with live examples which will help in day-to-day life. Her words give us Intuition and we are influenced by the words spoken have made those words come true in a way. But she said those words should be full of Perseverance & highly positive.

I highly recommend all of you to read the book, especially to youngsters which will help them a lot when they will lose their confidence at some point in life and her words will help you to fight like a warrior.

 

Book Review By Ms. Thanki -Make Your Life Ridiculously Amazing

"A book is a gift you can open again and again". I got this amazing book as a gift while I meet the author of this book very first time, and yes, I can cherish this gift each time I will Open this book.

This amazing book is written by Rushika J Hathi who is Author, Motivational Speaker, Corporate Trainer, Life Coach & Counselor, Edited by Bansi Chhatralia.

This book is a collection of 17 amazing Chapters which is describing human nature. At some point in life its became our nature becoming problems for us, Rushika Portrait all those Emotion / Problems in a very realistic way and you can actually relate yourself with her words, but she didn’t say just the problems but

she gave the solutions as well…

I Recommend you all must read this book because it worth reading. I felt all the emotion, which is a portrait by an author, I am damn sure you will also feel that this book is written especially for you. This small book is easy to understand as it's written in very simple English which is easy for everyone to understand. I am damn sure you will surely fall in love with her writeups & with her also, as I am in love with her.

As the title of this book is, "Make Your Life Ridiculously Amazing " the book's content totally justifying the title.

-Ms. Thanki

God's Favourite Child

I & You Need a Change !!!

I need a Change, You all need a break from the routine, But are we adopting a change very quickly?

When we heard the word Change, the entire atmosphere Change around us. Change a word itself making us confuse, when we are thinking about changing something, the first thing that comes on away is a hurdle/barrier. And that’s called Excuse. An excuse will stop us to do the things which we have decided. But if we want to do something different then we have to work towards our goal in a unique way which makes us different from others.

 

The reason for your change can be anything. Either People, Place, or the Time even season as well. Are we welcoming all the changes? 

 

Let's think together.

 

When babies start walking it’s a change for them as they used to do crawling but that change is necessary for the babies. What if they scared, what if their parents scared that their child may be getting injured while taking baby steps and never allow them to walk. ? Can You imagine. They have to go to school at the right age and the parents are allowing them for their bright future. It changes for them but changes for the betterment because education is a must for children.

 

Man do likes to be at home, they love to lay down on the couch by just doing random things with the family, but they are going every day just for the family, it's also a change of their life. When they are getting married, they are getting another responsibility as a life partner for her they can do anything it’s also a huge change for them. when men are getting retired from their work-life they are also enjoying their leisure time, they also prefer to help in household chores but sometimes they must keep quiet that change they not prefer. 

 

When it comes to a girl they love to play with their friends, they enjoyed an outing with her friends, they are happiest when they are freely enjoying late morning sleep, doing chit-chat with siblings but once they get married it’s a big change for them.

 

As I said Change can be in any form if  I say when any new person comes in our life, for a while everything changes, that person can be in any way, as a friend, as love, or as a life partner. In the starting phase, we are considering positive Changes but as a time pass, when both are not capable to fulfill each other's demands and it turns out in a negative change isn't it?

Even when season-changing it's very to individual many of us will feel the season either its winter, summer, or, Monsoon. A person who is suffering from cold allergy they will not like the winter others will enjoy, while who loves to enjoy the rain they will enjoy other will be just worried about getting wet while step out from home. 

 

When change comes in terms of place, if you tend to move to another place/country. How do you feel? You will face everything challenging but as time flies you will be comfortable. The fact is we tend to hesitate to accept the fact. 
 
Remember Everything known ones was a stranger... likewise settled in once gone through a process called change.....

Do not scared about change, just go with the flow. Do let me know what change have you faced so far and what was your reaction at that time. let's discuss !!!

                                                                          - Ms. Thanki

                                                                       God's Favourite Child